Although what he did is unacceptable, I unreservedly believe that Chris Brown is quite capable of turning this situation around to bring awareness domestic violence. Who better to speak up against this malady in our society than the person who actually inflicted and reminded us of its inattentive wounds? Nonetheless, before he can move forward, Chris needs to find it in himself to take full accountability for his action and genuinely express his remorse for committing such atrocity. After he has found it within himself to take responsibility for his actions and acknowledge the consequences of his action, Chris must then forgive himself before he can ask anyone for their forgiveness. The two are deeply connected and cannot operate without each other. Here’s what I propose:

* First, inform your family and friends not to comment on the situation any further. Recent comments from your camp seem very unremorseful and are bound to be negatively scrutinized by the media. This can put additional irreparable damage to your already awful situation.

* Rihanna might not be interested in seeing you at this point – understandably so, but if she is willing, take time to personally apologize to her. As trite as this may seem, say something along the lines of. “I don’t expect for you to forgive me and I can certainly understand if you don’t but I just want you to know that I am truly sorry for what I have done. You did nothing to deserve…” If you are unable to accomplish this, resort to your second viable option, email. Even though, I highly don’t recommend emails for expressing important apologies of this kind (because of its impersonal nature). I think by doing so you are demonstrating your sincerity and as ironic as it sounds you are telling her in a subtle way you value her feelings.

* Reasonable time has past Chris, please keep in mind there is an unwritten grace period in which the media and fans allows for public apologies and or statements. I think the times has come for you to conduct a press conference and or release not fully explaining what transpired (due to the legalities involve) but to acknowledge your faults and genuinely apologize for your actions. Seek the advice of your legal expert before doing so. An opening statement similar to Marion Jones won’t hurt. For example, It’s with a great amount of shame that I stand before you today…

* Once you have accomplished the above, you are now ready to move onto the third part of your transformation. Surrounding yourself with people who have your interest at heart and who are willing to assist you through this tough time. Seeking help from a highly recommended professional Psychotherapist will help you to unearth suppressed emotions that are necessary for you to move towards your healing process. Yes, it’s tedious but immersing yourself in anger management therapy will prove beneficial in long-term. Remember an important element of coping with anger is to disassociate yourself with people who fuel your anger or support your anger. This is no walk in the park; you’ll probably relapse during your journey but hold true to your faith.

* If in fact you have followed all the advice given to you by your psychotherapist and as a result you have made tremendous progress. Don’t be afraid to pay it forward. Share your experiences with others who have been in the same situation. Enlist the expertise of others and develop a program to help battered children or children from battered homes also makes for a great idea.

We are products of our environment. And while we adamantly claim that we are not going to take on the negative behaviors of those who have impacted our makeup, constant exposure to these kinds of behaviors can desensitize any individual. Unless we are aware that we are victims of own circumstances, remove our self from situation and not surround our self with enablers only then can we consciously and affirmatively make the right decisions against these behaviors. Simply put, you can’t soar with eagles if you flock with turkeys. Research tells us that attitudes affect our behavior. I don’t claim to have all the answers by any means, but what I do hope is to provide the information for those who seek it.

The idea Chris is to give the public what they want to hear (the truth) before they start seeking for what they want. Benchmark from others not necessarily in the same predicament but who have endured the same public scrutiny and notice the pattern in their results.

What do I have to say to those who ask?

Why would you write a damage control plan for Chris Brown and not for Rihanna considering you are a woman?

I just want to make clear that I’m by no means questioning Rihanna’s input or position in the assault nor I’m I diminishing the pain she endured as result of Chris’s action. My sole intention when writing this blog was acknowledge, yes, he did something extremely wrong and yes, yes, yes his actions might seem inexcusable to some but that we should take time to analyze his makeup, only then will we be able to understand (for a lack of better word); Why he did what he did and in turn help him to move towards progressive change. It doesn’t make it right but it will shed some light on the situation.

I think as society we are quick to rip the young guy to shreds without taking time to ask whether after revealing in an interview for a magazine about his abusive past, if aid was given to help him work through his pain? These things just don’t fix itself. He was trusted in the celebrity spotlight at a very young age, with all the attention and expectations that comes with it. We almost forgot that he’s human. Keep in mind that this is a young man who not only have not discovered his identity but who as a little boy growing up witness his mother being battered and still holds great resentments towards his stepdad. If one is not thought how to cope with his or her anger they are susceptible to resurface when triggered and as you can see his assault on Rihanna proves exactly that.

Is Chris Brown Career Over?

For now yes, indefinitely, well the answer is based upon two main contributing factors that are within his control. If in fact Chris Brown follows all protocols set to him by his potential advisors and visibly reveals progressive change as result then yes there is a possibility that his career can be back on track or even be better than it was before. On the reverse side of things, if Chris Brown chooses to remain blissful ignorant of his actions then yes it’s indefinitely over.

I am fan of Chris Brown, should I continue to support him?

Again, this dependant upon similar contributing factors as discussed in “Is Chris Brown Career Over?” By allowing a public figure like Chris brown to fail we are sending our youths a very strong message, a message of hopelessness.

Peace,

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NO Rih-Rih I hate to break to you honey but she didn’t steal your money this is what Accounting Professionals call “Financial Mismanagement” here in the states; a fancy but techinical term for you have been “Screwd Over”. My greatest hope for you is that your management team has a BRILLIANT recovery and or damage control plan, cause Rih Rih not many companies will want for you to market their products considering the fact you do not have smart decision makers supporting you. YOU SHOULD FIRE THEM ALL!!!

Here is what Patricia Williams reported to Blackarazzi.com -

“I’m a professional Business Manager, I have a staff of more than a dozen, I have worked for many high profile actors, musicians and multi-million dollar corporations. Why would I steal from Rihanna?” She continues, “I showed her all the paperwork and tried to explain to her the circumstances but she wouldn’t listen. She called me all sorts of horrible names and stormed off. I now feel compelled to share with the world the background story as I will not allow my name to be slandered”The Barbados born singer has had four back-to-back albums, including a re-release since her debut of “Pon De Replay” in 2005.According to Willliams, Marc Jordan, manager and owner of Rebel One Management has been taking care of Rihanna’s financial situation with her.

“Def Jam doesn’t fund Rihanna properly, so Marc uses the money Rihanna makes from third-party endorsements and from tours to fund her album and music videos.” Since 2005, Rihanna has been sponsored by the likes of JC Penny, Samsung, Covergirl, Secret, Venus Breeze etc,. and has gone on two major tours, most recently label-mate Kanye West’s “Glow in the Dark” Tour and with Pussy Cat Dolls across Europe.”I don’t want to disrespect Marc’s name. He is a fantastic manager and genuinely believes in Rihanna. But he uses her money to fund her future projects because he believes he can break her in the world-market. Her album sales are not nearly as close to her single sales and he knows that if she is only known as a ’singles artist’ she will only be as good as her last hit. Unfortunately, he didn’t inform his client and I’m receiving the brunt of it.”Why is Def Jam lacking in funding support for there act? Why was so much money spent? How much exactly? Williams continues,”Her record label Def Jam has put out 3 albums in a time span of 2 years.

Alot of that was orchestrated through her management Rebel One. It was never Def Jam’s intention to release so many albums back-to-back but Marc Jordan found loop holes and ways to make it happen.A lot of the money Rihanna made through her endorsements between CoverGirl Cosmetics, Samsung.. Notice that majority of Rihanna’s videos have a cell phone in it?””After the release of Rihanna and Teairra Mari, Def Jam had intention to drop both acts because their album sales were not successful. Her manager fought to get [S.O.S (Rescue Me)] and quickly tried to negotiate with as many companies as possible. Nike picked up the song and funded a video. This brought the hype back for Rihanna in the company’s New York office. Majority of the official ‘S.O.S’ video was funded by Samsung because the record label was only willing to put up a small amount. Once ‘S.O.S’ picked up digitally and at radio, Def Jam agreed to fund the rest of her album. Jordan instantly got a video shot to ‘Unfaithful’ (he negotiated with video director Anthony Mandler to drop his price and would be given more videos from Rihanna in return). Then they shot ‘We Ride’ which was an extremely cheap video to create. ‘Break It Off’ was released as a third album, but again, Def Jam was unhappy with the sales of her album “A Girl Like Me” and refused to shoot a video.

At this point Rihanna was opening up for the Pussy Cat Doll’s in Europe. She was making 30,000 a show but she didn’t see any of that money because it was needed to fund her next album.” Which is now known to the greater public as a ‘Good Girl Gone Bad’.”The song “Umbrella” was found & Jordan fought again for Rihanna to have it. They shot the video, which CoverGirl funded half of, and the song became a success. When the record label had there meeting with Music Stores across the U.S to order her album for shipment, the number’s weren’t coming in the way that they expected. When the album’s first week numbers came in at less than 150,000, the label was shocked. Def Jam’s President LA Reid was livid! Umbrella was #1 for 11 weeks! Any other artist would have sold way more first week. T-Pain even did better in sales than her that week. Def Jam told Jordan they were no longer funding the album, so Jordan needed money again to pay for music videos ‘Shut Up & Drive’ and ‘Dont Stop The Music’. Almost 250,000 was spent to have those videos created. Plus, an additional 120,000 to shoot ‘Hate That I Love You’. Jordan was noticing that ‘Dont Stop The Music’ was picking up, so her persuaded the label to support it at radio in the U.S and the remaining singles, and they did.””Then came for the repackaging of her album ‘Good Girl Gone Bad’, which is called ‘Good Girl Gone Bad: Reloaded’, that entire project was funded through Rihanna’s money.

‘Take A Bow’ was bought through her money, the video was created with her money and so is her most recent video and single ‘Disturbia’. The label didn’t even want to pay a dime for anything! Close to 750,000 was spent on those two songs alone. And now she expects to see money in her account?” Williams states that Jordan, her publicist from well-respected public relations firm 42-West, Alicia Silverman has built alot of hype around Rihanna’s name but the singer has only made “a little bit above a million” and “all of it was spent on making her as big as she is now.

Source: www.blackarazzi.com